Empathy
Neuroscience has shown that the brain is a “social organ,” wired for connection. As social beings, we exist in relationship to others whether in the home, school, workplace or community. Relationships work best when we can understand the situation, thoughts and feelings of another, to facilitate cooperation. This is empathy.
Empathy is different from sympathy. Summarized, empathy is feeling with and builds connection; sympathy is feeling for which invites disconnection. This 3-minute video by Brene Brown helps explain the difference: https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/
Challenge: Find ways to practice with your family, co-workers and others the four ways Brene Brown describes of showing empathy:
Take the perspective of the other. This takes listening.
Refrain from judgment, whether we agree with what the other is experiencing, or just don’t understand it.
Recognize and validate the emotions of others.
Communicate this to them: “I bet you’re feeling angry about that.”
Lois Ingber, LCSW, CPDLT
Behavioral Counselor
lingber@myelement.org