New Year Reflections
When the calendar flips to a new year, it is common to mark this turning point as an opportunity to make a change in one’s life. Some make well-intentioned New Year Resolutions, some do so half-heartedly expecting at some point to fail, and some are simply not interested. Studies have shown that about 80% of resolutions are abandoned by February. This 1-min. video offers some tips to help those making resolutions to succeed. Even with these tips, however, it is easy to become discouraged and give up.
One strategy to avoid becoming discouraged in achieving a goal is to re-frame our perspective. The helpful tips in the video come from the prefrontal cortex, in other words, are cognitive and solution-focused - and are indeed important. However, when we combine cognitive goals with the ‘brain’ in our heart and gut, it builds connection with ourselves and others, increasing the chances of success.
Challenge:
1. Make a list of 3-5 things you “have” to do using the sentence starter “I have to… (“I have to…get more organized.). Now re-write your sentences using these starters:
“I want to… I choose to… It is important to me that… I will…”
2. Make a list of 3-5 things you “can’t’” do using the sentence starter “I can’t… (“I can’t…lose weight.). Now re-write your sentences using these starters:
“I have chosen not to… I don’t… I haven’t yet tried hard enough to… It just isn’t that important to me to…”
3. What did you notice when you re-wrote your sentences? What are you learning about yourself?
With acknowledgment to Laurie Prusso, Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, for the activity, “Why We Get Stuck.”Information about the 3 brains can be found here: https://www.mbraining.com/